A year later, Janet came to me for treatment of her loss, but was afraid to let go of the trauma for fear of losing her husband forever.
This is what I call the great trauma rip-off. When people are traumatized, they can only remember the traumatic circumstances around the tragic event, not the positive experiences that they had with that person before his/her death. How does this happen? Phobias and traumas are irrational and exaggerated reactions caused by shocking experiences that trigger the fight/flight/ freeze reflex. Anything that was in the environment at the time becomes associated with the traumatic memory. Later, encountering anything that reminds you (even unconsciously) of the original event triggers a “body flashback” to the original memory causing a phobic reaction.
Sadly, Janet felt traumatized every time she remembered her husband. She kept imagining him dead in that hotel room and could only feel grief and pain. In essence her husband had become a trauma, and although she was in pain she was afraid that letting go of the trauma meant losing her husband. I told Janet that only when she cleared the trauma would she be able to hold on to and keep the positive memories and feelings associated with her husband and to experience gratitude for the wonderful contributions he had made to her life. Only after she cleared the trauma would she be able to finish grieving and feel his loving presence. Janet agreed to do the HBLU process for clearing trauma.
Since a phobic reaction is a body reflex and can’t be controlled consciously we principally used the Natural Bio-Destressing technique to activate the body’s own calming reflex. This reflex is used by the nervous system to turn off the fight/ flight/freeze reflex, thus neutralizing the phobic reaction. Natural Bio-Destressing requires no prior experience to learn or use successfully. People focus consciously on the emotional reaction they would like to clear and then intentionally activate the calming reflex by stimulating specific nerve endings (using tapping with fingertips) on the face, torso, and hands combined with left brain/right brain integration techniques.
After the first session, Janet was able to sleep without drugs or alcohol. After the third session she was able to spontaneously remember a happy experience with her husband. After the fifth session Janet knew at the deepest level that she would carry with her and cherish her husband always, that he would never want her to be unhappy, and that she could go on with her life. She moved to a new city, found a new job, dated several wonderful men, and 5 years later remarried.
Whether loss trauma occurred less than a year ago or more than 60 years ago, my clients and I have found that the memory of their loved ones is tainted by trauma unless we use the right techniques to clear it completely at the body, unconscious, conscious, and soul levels. Healing trauma at all levels allows people to easily recall special memories of loving connection and appreciate the ways in which their lives were enriched by having known that person.
HBLU™ is an innovative, rapid, and powerful new mind/body/spirit healing methodology developed by Judith A. Swack, Ph.D., a Ph.D. Biochemist/ Immunologist, Master NLP Practitioner, and Mind/ Body Healer. HBLU™ integrates biomedical science, psychology, applied kinesiology, hypnosis, Neuro Linguistic Programming, and other energy psychology techniques with original research on the structure of complex damage patterns. HBLU is so effective because:
Dr. Swack and her associates work with individual clients in person or by phone. Healing from the Body Level Up™, Inc. is located at 56 Pickering St. Needham, MA 02492. Call our office at 781-444-6940 to book an appointment, to order a free information package, and to order audio and videotapes. For more information and to get a free copy of the Natural Bio- Destressing technique, visit our website at www.HBLU.org
Boston Women’s Journal December/January 2006
