It’s a miracle. Imagine, me getting married again at 78 years old. In my twenties, I married a man who developed multiple sclerosis which required me to be his caregiver till he died. I cared

for my mother and father in my house at the same time as caring for my husband. 

I changed careers from teaching (not much income) to systems analyst (went back to college at age 36 for degree in computer science) to pay for a handicap accessible house (that I designed

with the builder) and caregivers.  After everyone passed, I returned to teaching.  The computer job was 24/7 - computers never sleep and at that point, I was very tired.

Then I lived with a man for another twenty years who had very sick and dysfunctional children, had diabetes and eventually developed Alzheimer’s. I ended up taking care of him and his

children!

I started working with Dr. Swack 3 years ago because I felt depressed and anxious. I lamented that I’m always the one taking care of everyone, and I would like to be taken care of by

somebody else for a change.

Dr. Swack helped me clear the caregiver/rescuer patterns in my unconscious mind, disengage from the dysfunctional children, and place my partner in an appropriate nursing home. Dr. Swack

recommended I start dating again, and told me that after all the work we had done, I would find an equal partner.

Sure enough, 3 months after I went online, I met my husband. He was widowed and was looking for another partner to share his life. When I injured my leg and had to use a wheelchair, he

pushed me around and took me to all my doctor’s appointments. He has taken me on several cruises. Every day all he wants to know from me is “what can I do for you?” and “what will make you happy?” And I say back, "What would you like to do?"   Our goal to is have some fun each day.

I really love you, Judith. Thank you so much.