Open Does Not Mean Vulnerable

Judith A. Swack, Ph.D. • August 26, 2025

Copyright 2025 Judith A. Swack, Ph.D.


Jane was dating two men at once and having trouble deciding who to choose.  She listed all of John’s wonderful qualities and all of Steven’s wonderful qualities and remarked, “If I could just put the two of them together I’d have the perfect man.”  When asked why she didn’t just date one man who had everything, she said she was keeping one man as a backup because she didn’t feel safe with either one of them.  Puzzled, I asked, “Why would you date, let alone marry, anyone you didn’t feel safe with? Clearly, you’ll never marry either of these men.” Jane simply looked astonished.


Love is a beautiful thing.  We all need to love and be loved. Sadly, many of us have been hurt by the people we love and who are supposed to love us.  When that happens, we no longer feel safe, and we shut down the ability to give and receive love.  The tragedy is that we can no longer feel loved or experience ourselves as loving beings. We no longer experience the nourishing flow of warm golden buttery energy that uplifts the heart/soul, connects us all, and soothes all pain. And everyone else we could be loving is robbed.


According to the dictionary, the word “vulnerable” means open to attack.  When someone says, “I’m afraid to be vulnerable” he/she
should be afraid to be vulnerable, but he/she should not be afraid to be emotionally open, emotionally present, or emotionally close.  Opening to give and receive love should not make one vulnerable. 


So what to do about it?  With HBLU we acknowledge the fear and heal the traumas, dysfunctional family system and cultural brainwashing patterns that caused it.  This allows people to reach out with their hearts and share one of the greatest gifts in life.


If you or anyone you know would like to open your heart to love, get happily married, or improve your marriage or other relationships, HBLU methodology can help you. If you would like to learn more or schedule an appointment, please call
781-444-6940, email info@hblu.org, or go to www.hblu.org.

 

Blessings, Judith

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