Disappointment, the Springboard to Success

Judith A. Swack • January 9, 2024

Many people have difficulty dealing with disappointment. When something they really want or worked hard for doesn’t come through, they get overwhelmed by disappointment, give up hope and stop dead in their tracks. Interestingly, when used well, disappointment can become a powerful motivating energy, and here’s a Neuro-Linguistic Programming technique for doing just that!


Step 1: Recognize that you feel disappointed. Is it a sinking feeling in your heart, a nauseous or empty feeling in your stomach? Recognize how disappointment registers in your body.


Step 2: With respect and appreciation, recognize that your feeling of disappointment is a signal that you need to reevaluate your results.


Step 3: With a feeling of curiosity, evaluate whether what you wanted and did not get is worth continuing to want. If you decide it’s still worth pursuing, remember times where you got creative, persevered, and eventually found ways to get what you wanted. Know that you can always do that again, so feel reassured about your ability to do that.


Step 4: If what you wanted and did not get is no longer worth wanting, consider what would be more worthwhile to want under the circumstances. If it is time to find other things to pursue, recall times when you changed goals and eventually succeeded at getting what you wanted, and feel reassured about your ability to do that.


Step 5: Imagine doing what you need to do to eventually get what you want, adding detail and vividness until you feel confident about that future.


Isn’t this a brilliant strategy? With Healing from the Body Level Up methodology, you can install this strategy directly into your unconscious mind so it automatically becomes a habit! Just place one hand gently across your forehead and the other hand gently across the back of your head and let your head move however it wants to while listening to me read the strategy to you again. Are you ready? Here we go.


Recognize that you feel disappointed.


With respect and appreciation, recognize that your feeling of disappointment is a signal that you need to reevaluate your results.


With a feeling of curiosity, evaluate whether what you wanted and did not get is worth continuing to want. If you decide it’s still worth pursuing, remember times where you got creative, persevered, and eventually found ways to get what you wanted, and feel reassured about your ability to do that.


If what you wanted and did not get is no longer worth wanting, consider what would be more worthwhile to want under the circumstances. If it is time to find other things to pursue, recall times when you changed goals and eventually succeeded at getting what you wanted, and feel reassured about your ability to do that.


Imagine doing what you need to do to eventually get what you want, adding detail and vividness until you feel confident about that future.


Repeat this exercise two more times to make sure it’s now a habit. And good luck with creating a more satisfying future.

I would like to acknowledge Leslie Cameron Bandler and Michael LeBeau for describing the elegant strategies for processing disappointment as well as other emotions in their book “The Emotional Hostage”, San Rafael, CA: Future Pace, Inc. 1986.

HBLU™ is an innovative, rapid, and powerful new mind/body/spirit healing methodology developed by Judith A. Swack, Ph.D., a Ph.D. Biochemist/ Immunologist, Master NLP Practitioner, and Mind/ Body Healer. HBLU™ integrates biomedical science, psychology, applied kinesiology, hypnosis, Neuro Linguistic Programming, and other energy psychology techniques with original research on the structure of complex damage patterns. HBLU is so effective because:


1. The client’s deepest wisdom dictates all the healing work and is thus specific for that individual,
2. It has a menu of well characterized damage patterns and easy protocols for clearing them,
3. It has a comprehensive menu of quick and effective techniques, and
4. It clears blocks to success at the conscious, unconscious, body, and soul levels simultaneously.

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Bless Everyone

By Judith A. Swack, Ph.D. • December 2, 2025
Copyright 2013, revised 2025 Judith A. Swack, Ph.D. At the recent ACEP conference (May 2013) I ran into Jane, a woman who had attended my presentation at the Energy Psychology conference the previous October. There I had demonstrated an energy transmission technique that I called “The Look” in which someone remembers a traumatic emotion, locates that feeling in his/her body, and I look at it. About 10 seconds later, the feeling dissolves. At the end of that session, I transmitted that ability to anyone who wished to receive it.
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Successful Treatment of Physical Problems Starts with Acceptance

By Judith A. Swack, Ph.D. • September 29, 2025
Copyright 2014 revised 2025 Judith A. Swack, Ph.D. Three years ago, John’s blood sugar levels started to rise. Although John’s father and several other relatives had diabetes, John refused to believe he might really have a problem. Although his doctor had encouraged him to modify his diet and lose weight, John continued to eat whatever he wanted, not exercise, and stay fat. Now at age 52, his fasting blood sugar was 150 (normal is 70-99). When I asked him if he knew that he had diabetes, he told me that there was controversy over whether or not fasting blood glucose was a legitimate test for diabetes, and the medical establishment was now considering the A1C measurement as more accurate. So John got an A1C test, which also showed he was diabetic.

Open Does Not Mean Vulnerable

By Judith A. Swack, Ph.D. • August 26, 2025
Copyright 2025 Judith A. Swack, Ph.D. Jane was dating two men at once and having trouble deciding who to choose. She listed all of John’s wonderful qualities and all of Steven’s wonderful qualities and remarked, “If I could just put the two of them together I’d have the perfect man.” When asked why she didn’t just date one man who had everything, she said she was keeping one man as a backup because she didn’t feel safe with either one of them. Puzzled, I asked, “Why would you date, let alone marry, anyone you didn’t feel safe with? Clearly, you’ll never marry either of these men.” Jane simply looked astonished. Love is a beautiful thing. We all need to love and be loved. Sadly, many of us have been hurt by the people we love and who are supposed to love us. When that happens, we no longer feel safe, and we shut down the ability to give and receive love. The tragedy is that we can no longer feel loved or experience ourselves as loving beings. We no longer experience the nourishing flow of warm golden buttery energy that uplifts the heart/soul, connects us all, and soothes all pain. And everyone else we could be loving is robbed. According to the dictionary, the word “vulnerable” means open to attack. When someone says, “I’m afraid to be vulnerable” he/she should be afraid to be vulnerable, but he/she should not be afraid to be emotionally open, emotionally present, or emotionally close. Opening to give and receive love should not make one vulnerable. So what to do about it? With HBLU we acknowledge the fear and heal the traumas, dysfunctional family system and cultural brainwashing patterns that caused it. This allows people to reach out with their hearts and share one of the greatest gifts in life. If you or anyone you know would like to open your heart to love, get happily married, or improve your marriage or other relationships, HBLU methodology can help you. If you would like to learn more or schedule an appointment, please call 781-444-6940 , email info@hblu.org , or go to www.hblu.org . Blessings, Judith